No Dutiful Wife Am I


No dutiful wife am I.
No slippers for your feet,
No ruffled apron about me.

No dutiful wife am I,
Not in that way of some
Who imagine women as such.

Oh dutiful wife I am!
I will stand by you,
Fight for you and defend.

Oh dutiful wife I am!
Your dreams to cherish,
Your child to protect.

I won’t promise to keep
The house perfectly clean,
Nor the ironing done.

I won’t promise to be
Someone that I am not,
Some other time dream’d.

I promise to keep
Your heart safe by mine,
Your spirit held high.

I promise I shall be
All that I am, as best I can
For the love that we share.

No dutiful wife I am,
Warrior, priestess, mother
Lover, guardian and poet.

Ever I shall be, to me and to thee:
Faithful and loving and kind.
Your love to hold, the wounds to bind.

Not by some standard dim,
But for passion and faith,
For this my love shall grow.

For you, my dear, my love shall grow.


2010 Copyright Shanyn Silinski (Dedicated to my beloved husband, Earl)



  1. gospelwriter said,

    September 19, 2011 at 11:43 pm

    Hehe – sounds a bit like something I’d say. It often seems the facade (proof, so to speak, for others) is more valued that what’s real and really matters. Lucky the man who gets a woman such as this… Well done!

    • shanyns said,

      September 19, 2011 at 11:52 pm

      Thanks! 🙂 I love how the ‘proof’ really isn’t much more than reinforced stereotypes which are so much fun to take apart! Thanks for coming by.

  2. ShonEjai said,

    September 20, 2011 at 1:22 am


  3. September 20, 2011 at 1:31 am

    Very lovely……..lucky man!

    • shanyns said,

      September 20, 2011 at 12:37 pm

      Thank you for coming by, and I think he would agree with you 🙂

  4. Kim Nelson said,

    September 20, 2011 at 1:34 am

    An exceptional tribute to the one you love and, just as importantly, to your own true self. This is a terrific piece of self-revelatory writing, Shanyn.

    • shanyns said,

      September 20, 2011 at 12:36 pm

      Kim – thank you for this, you are a writer I respect and your words encourage me greatly! Thank you for coming by and reading my poetry.

  5. September 20, 2011 at 2:12 pm

    This is a wonderful gesture of commitment – who would not like to receive such an assurance of love?

    Thank you for sharing your poem on Real Toads.

    • shanyns said,

      September 20, 2011 at 3:27 pm

      Thanks Kerry for coming by and leaving your comment. I appreciate it very much, it is so nice to see you here!

  6. Pat Cegan said,

    September 21, 2011 at 1:54 am

    Once my daughter said, “Can’t you be like other Moms, just a little?” Well, no, I could not. lol But I knew who I am and I knew I loved her, so there you are. Love your poem. Thank you for subscribing to my blog. It will be nice to get to know you. Hugs, pat

    • shanyns said,

      September 21, 2011 at 2:08 pm

      Pat – your daughter made me laugh. I can’t be like other Mama’s but I know I have the love I need for those whom I love. I’m not, and you are not, and no one should be like any other. Thanks for stopping by and I’ve enjoyed your blog! Hugs

  7. fallenelegy said,

    September 21, 2011 at 9:44 am

    a different perspective, a woman may not be the exact image implanted in a man’s mind but she still has something for that man, love and kindness, she would do anything when it matters even she doesn’t do the washing. and this poem bashes the stereotype image of a woman in the house. there is much more to expect from a loving wife than keeping the house in order. beautiful poem. 🙂

    • shanyns said,

      September 21, 2011 at 4:09 pm

      Thank you for this Fallen 🙂 You made me smile with your comment!

  8. Pam Manners said,

    September 21, 2011 at 3:30 pm

    Oh, how I love this poem!!! This is the best kind of wife to be, not the Leave It To Beaver Mrs. Cleaver kind (with apologies to Barbara Billingsley). But it doesn’t sound like duty….sounds more like love. So very beautiful, Shanyn!!!

    • shanyns said,

      September 21, 2011 at 4:09 pm

      Pam – thank you for this *smiles* I never could quite get the Mrs. Cleaver bit down no matter how hard my Grandma and Mother tried. 🙂

  9. September 24, 2011 at 12:29 am

    37years and going strong, I get it, I get it!

  10. Mike Patrick said,

    September 28, 2011 at 5:26 pm

    Your priorities are clear . . . and dear. So much of life can be put on hold to embrase important things.

    • shanyns said,

      September 28, 2011 at 5:36 pm

      Mike – thanks for coming by. You are right in what you say, there are so many things that can wait while we take care of what s really important!

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